The story behind the book… Book two!

I Matter

After I published ‘I Can Handle It’, I was eager to do it again! (Self-publishing is where it’s at for authors, quick and easy, and all your royalties! I could go on.) 

There were many mantras I could choose from, in fact, I even created a Daily Mantra card pack, so there was 25 to choose from right there. I chose the mantra ‘I Matter’ came from an article a friend shared. The writer was a woman who’s close friend died by suicide and it was about what she would have said to that friend if given a second chance.  She said all she would have said was, ‘You matter. You MATTER, YOU MATTER, YOU MATTER!’.

Around the same time, another high school student in a nearby town had died by suicide. I wanted a way to share the message that all people matter. This was the motivation for writing this book next.

Kids often came to my kindergarten classroom thinking they were helpless, and not knowing how to begin even a simple task – because they had rarely been given the chance.

I didn’t boost their self-efficacy by telling them that they could do anything, be anything, that they were oh-so-wonderful. (Kids are smart, they know BS when they hear it.)I did my best to boost their belief in themselves by making them DO things. Not for me, but for the class, for friends, for plants, for animals, and for themselves.

To an outsider, it might have looked like the kids were only rewarded or validated when they ‘performed’. However, upon looking closer, there’s a lot to learn that many people don’t realize. The reward comes from the doing.

Kids who get the chance to serve, to help, to contribute feel GREAT about themselves. Even when they take a few tries to get something right, even if they DON’T get it right, the learning is in the trying, in the doing.

There is no learning about yourself, no growth, no belief in your own ability when things are done FOR you.

The purpose of I Matter is to teach kids to look for the feedback cues they matter when the words aren’t spoken (because they rarely are). Looking for feedback from an important person in our lives is common. We search for a smile, a laugh, some interest being shown, and not every child is given that. So then we show them how to water a plant, hug a sad friend or make a baby laugh. Upon doing any of these things, there is sure to be feedback – rarely spoken out loud – that a young child can look for and then feel validation about themselves and their self-worth.
This is how children learn.
Daily Mantras
25 cards to use at home or at school

When kids learn to believe in themselves and their abilities they will realize how very much they matter.

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